Too Confident?

I've consistently struggled with the balance between confidence and arrogance.

Kobe and the Fine Line

It was April 13th, 1996. Kobe Bryant was set to play in the Magic Johnson Roundball Tournament—a classic tournament for some of the best talent coming out of high school.

It comes as no surprise to anyone that Kobe was one of the top-ranked players coming out of high school. With a season stat-line of 31 pts, 12 rebounds, and 4 blocks as a guard, there was a buzzing excitement around his name.

But… he wasn't ranked number one. A guy named Tim Thomas held that spot.

Now, I believe that too much comparison is the emptiness of all joy, but there is power in knowing who you want to become, and who stands as the goal you want to reach.

And this ate Kobe alive.

Calling Your Shot

The night before the game, he couldn't sleep. He was pacing, tossing and turning, repeating to his roommate:

"Tomorrow they've got Tim as the #1 player in the country. I'm gonna go out there and show the world that I'M the number one player in the country.
Tomorrow, I'm going to go out there and destroy anyone who tries to guard me.
Watch. Just wait and see."

Needless to say, Kobe did just that. He balled out and emphatically made his case for the #1 player in the country.

Confidence vs Arrogance

We all know who Kobe is now, but what would you say to someone who said that to you today? Who had the audacity to call their shot? To believe that deeply in themselves?

Is this arrogance? Or is this confidence? Maybe a little bit of both?

There's a fine line. And the only person who knows whether you've crossed it or not is… you.

Confidence is a funny thing. It drives motivation, enjoyment, and skill development. But how do we find that line?

When you know you're great at something, there is power in leaning into that. Continuing the work with a growing feeling that you're meant for something greater.

Honesty is the Key

The line is drawn at honesty:

Arrogance is confidence without merit.

If you act with confidence in something you're not great at, and you don’t put in the work… you know it. That's not what we're shooting for.

But if you can honestly say you've put the work in, consistently pushed yourself past your comfort zone, and believe you can get to the next level, then there is so much power in leaning into that confidence.

Don’t Worry About Others’ Opinions

It can be so defeating to feel confident, but be called arrogant. I don't know about you, but I certainly don’t want to be classified in the arrogant column.

It can make you question yourself. Lead to imposter syndrome. Diminish motivation.

The ticket to continuing to build confidence?

Forget about what the person who thinks you’re arrogant thinks.
Know exactly who you are, what you stand for, and who you are committed to being.

Kobe rubbed a lot of people the wrong way. His level of self-belief was off the charts. Would he have accomplished what he did without that? No way.

You're not too confident. You're working. You're growing. And you're exactly where you need to be.

Keep Shooting Your Shot

Keep shooting your shot. Don’t let anyone prevent you from doing so. Keep fighting the good fight.

Shooters Shoot.

I'll see you next blog. 🔥

BriAnna